Somebody I’m close with has an addiction to Netflix. He bums it off my family, and that’s okay, but I’ve seen his life just degenerating and the Netflix is a symptom of him not leading a fulfilling life.
He said to renew the Netflix, and I joked around, gave him crap about bumming it, then told him I’d see what I can do.
Couple days later I see him begging people for Netflix on Facebook and I just get to thinking, “Dude… Come on.” He really needs Netflix that badly?
So I text him about it, and he says some bullshit about school being long and he just wants to watch a movie. I didn’t know exactly what I wanted to say to that but what I did say came in the moment… And it was a long-ass text message.
I don’t wanna be condescending, but dude.. That’s a losing attitude. I dunno what your goals are, or what things you want for yourself, but I can promise you that if you watch Netflix that often with the intent of, “I just like to chill,” and that becomes the highlight of your day then you’ll never be able to take on your higher goals in life.
Seriously, if the highlight of your day is Netflix, a bag of chips, and wet martini without olives then that’s a sad existence… You’ll never have the will power to build up to something better, and your brain will trick you into failure by telling you it’s okay to minimize the effort and just pass through life like a speck of dust.
Getting a girlfriend, exercising, getting a good job, developing a down-to-earth charisma, raising kids, buying the groceries you need and want and only those (not wasting money) when you need it.. Those are all things that require action and to abandon your fears; to lead of life you find profound and interesting every single day requires build-up and preparation.
If you want to be a businessman, start watching documentaries with the intent of studying how business works. Good with girls – pay attention to the vibe the guys give off. But trying to escape the world you live in by drowning it in that much media is a net loss for your life…
But this probably doesn’t resonate with you. And that’s okay, not everybody needs to be inspired and to want to work hard to achieve big things. The world needs different personalities and types of people in it. Anyways, I’m not your fuckin dad, whatever life you live is up to you. I’ll let you know when Netflix is up
As inspiring as this is (and maybe you think it’s not), I doubt it’ll change him. It might illicit a response for a little bit, but it’s more likely he won’t listen and revert back to the Netflix mindset.
Now why do you think that is? It’s because he’s too lazy to pull himself out of it. He’s not driven, although he tells me he’s envious of my drive. But I’ve had to pull myself out of some dark shit, and my anger was the only thing keeping me through that, it was the strongest thing about me.
My temper ruined my life, but it also brought me to a better place because I refused to live a life of mediocrity. Once I got to the point where I realized my anger had no purpose, yeah it was hard to let go of it, but I replaced it with happiness and a deep sense of motivation backed by 5-6 years of saying, “You’re better than this – keep pushing.”
So now I’m addicted to being motivated, and the world gives me shit when I’m not pushing myself to the limit. (Nice rhyme lol).
Instead of being pushed around by what I thought the world wanted, I decided to push back. And of course I still get caught up in what other people say about the world, or in advice/teachings, and whatever – but I’m more able to handle the world for myself because I’m not a lazy thinker. Maybe unless I’m tired or unfamiliar with something, but otherwise I’m always trying to learn more about it or just need some rest.
Don’t be lazy. Don’t even be motivated or pissed off, necessarily, just move in the direction you know you need to take. Begin to enjoy what you yourself can accomplish, and make the highlights of your day better and better.
PS. The highlights of my day always include different exercises to keep my whole body in shape, and work on different skills. It includes writing blogs, or shooting videos. It includes connecting people, creating new job opportunities for them or finding new training partners.
I have a training partner who’s gonna help me with Wing Chun so I can work on wrist control, the clinch, and counters. I also have a football player who’s like 6’4″ who’s gonna help me with takedown defense by just tackling the shit out of me. And it’ll be great!
Also helping new musicians/rappers, Ms Canada, marketers, videographers, etc. Life seems “simple” to me and mundane, but when I explain these things to other people they tend to give me weird stares.
Or even when I say I had drinks with a girl they know is cute or something. My life seems very simple and mundane to me, but compared to my vision of others’ lives (the Netflix life) it’s just at a much higher level than living for stimulation.